I think a lot more analysis ought to be taken on if at all this dowry debate is to end.
Personally I have taken my time and keenly looked through the importance of bride price specifically considering the value our old wise men and women attached to it.
My conclusion is,bride price whether it’s returned after things have gone bazaar or not,has lost its value.
In the olden days,women where paid for,yes paid for,let’s stop sugar coating it as appreciation,or maybe we can,now that it is just a fulfillment of trends. These girls, right from childhood where taught to work as women, mothers and most especially as wives.
The time came when you were paid for,and off you went to your marital home for fulfillment of specifically two major duties;childbirth and conjugal rights awarded to the man,of course also maintaining the home, I can add that,this is what girls where trained to do. This is where the notion a “woman’s office is in the kitchen” came from.
Anything beyond that was to be taken care of by the man.They where also brought up as men,taught to hunt,given skills to run a home, singly as a man should. The food,the children needs and most importantly the woman’s needs,where never anyone’s worry,but the man’s.
My point is the men were men,they were the heads of the home. Women were paid for,because basically they stayed home diligently preparing for the husband’s return to a warm meal.
With emancipation, and blaming our economy as well ,a woman cannot afford to sit home and look at her husband for everything. Times have changed. In this era it’s no surprise you take a woman home and she cannot cook, cannot iron or boil drinking water,now I pause my question,”What where you paying for?”
In this era,you find the laziest of men, the kind that can’t fix a bulb,or maw the grass, how disastrous!
The men need our help,its now a partnership. With the way women are advocating for the men’s sits calling it emancipation,I think it’s time this bride price game came to a stop.